Tales from the bedroom are considered sacred, but tales from the corners of marriage are even more forbidden. Why is that? As I sit on a tender marriage of almost four years, a love ignited for ten years, I often wonder how isolated and crippling that silence can be. Why are married people so quiet? […]
Feminism
How a Feminist Got Married: A Radical Manifesta
I’ve spent almost three years of my online life searching for my feminism. I spent the first year trying to understand blogging and feminist online activism/communication/communities. I spent the second year throwing myself into media. And this third year, I am sick of “working on” anything and just want to be me, a voice of […]
Tribute to the Lolas
Tribute to the Lolas
I spent an evening with The Lolas of Lila Pilipina, the surviving comfort women of WWII in the Philippines. An evening of strength and joy, these women danced and sang their hearts out. When the music didn’t come out of the karaoke machine, they danced a capella to, “You are My Sunshine.” It wasn’t that […]
Tribute to the Lolas
Hung on a wall of their home, many tapestries tell the story of the violence inflicted upon them by the Japanese soldiers during World War II. Often kidnapped, coerced, or tricked into going with the soldiers, they were made to work during the day in garrisons doing laundry, cleaning, and cooking. By nightfall, they were […]
Tribute to the Lolas of Lila Pilipina
Feminist Mothering
By this time next year, I’d like to be a mother, or expecting biologically or through adoption. Today, a weird day, Mother’s Day, I am thinking about what kind of guardian I will be. I’ve encountered lots of phrases to describe the experience and effort to parent young souls in a manner that indulges in […]
Dismantling vs. Transforming a Rape Culture
This FLY post and this analytic post got me thinking about my own experience working in sexual assault. So, in theme withthese great womyn, here are my own thoughts about the assertion that “empowering women’s sexuality is the key to dismantling rape culture.” Dismantling vs. Transforming Rape CultureIt’s been about seven years that I have […]